For me, there are those people that no matter how hard I try, they just refuse to see it my way! I’m kidding, of course, because I learned a long time ago that contrast is the reason for living, without it, we can’t make decisions.
But all of us have someone, or maybe a few people, that we would really rather not participate with, but there they are. Can’t get away from them for whatever reason, so next time, try this:
Your difficult person is being difficult and you have no idea what you did or how to fix it. Ask them this: “What can I do in this moment to make you feel better?” And MEAN IT!
Usually, the person is so surprised that you asked they don’t know what to say, tell them to have a nice day and move on. But if they do answer you, you can say, “I am so sorry I can’t do that. Is there anything else?” Or, “Ok, I can do that, thanks for letting me know.” And then smile, and remember, they are in a hell of their own making. You have the choice to join them or not. Be happy that you are happy with yourself, and be compassionate that they are in pain.
“Today, I will sincerely ask a person who is struggling if there is anything I can do to help them feel better in this moment. And if I can’t, I will allow them to be on their path, and continue on mine.”