When we grow up in an environment that is less than nurturing we develop skills to feel safe. This is how we survive. But as we get older, it becomes necessary to examine those skills. Are they helping or harming us in having deep, satisfying, and intimate relationships? One practice that I love is that of the “Joyful Observer”. Staying open to love and kindness to others and ourselves, we take a step back and allow people to show us who they really are, not trying to control the outcome. By staying connected to love for the Self, we can observe another’s behavior without feeling threatened by it.
Today I will connect with my Self, first, and then joyfully observe who I bring into my experience and let them show me who they really are.