They say that depression is anger turned inwards, and many times, therapists poke and poke until the patient gets mad. Why? Because anger is a more powerful force than depression. I am not advocating anger, not at all, but if the option is depression or anger, anger is still moving up the ladder of energy flowing and “getting mad at it” (whatever ‘it” is) can be a healthy thing. Because in the acknowledgment that you are angry about something you are saying that you care enough about the situation to have an opinion and to FEEL your feelings.
Here’s the trick. You can’t stay angry. Once you have poked that stick at what is bothering you and have had a good cry, screamed, beat a pillow, (yep, done all of this myself) that’s when you release that tension and MOVE the energy. Now you can look at what is bothering you and take the next step, acceptance. We cannot change what we will not accept. It is what it is. Ok, now what? Use the contrast between what you don’t want to inspire you to what you would prefer.
“Today, I will allow myself to care enough to get MAD. Really get it all out! And then, I will accept where I stand, and envision where I would rather be.”