A friend called today and said that she felt misunderstood by the man she is dating and it made her worried that he wasn’t the right person for her. She has asked him to go slowly and be patient as she was just coming out of a difficult relationship. He agreed but still didn’t quite understand her boundaries, even teased her a bit. I told her to choose to look at what he WAS doing, not at whether or not he completely understood why she needed these “rules”. He respects and cares for her enough to just wait and let the relationship unfold, no pressure. How lovely, a real grownup! Looking for positive aspects is possible in all situations.
“Today if I face a challenge I will see if I can “Flip” my perspective from one of negative to positive.”