It can be so tempting to justify our anger, to list all the reasons that we should feel outrage. The story we tell ourselves and others keeps us stuck in that emotional and mental pain and the more we talk about it the angrier we get. Now anger is not a bad thing, it lets us know that we feel passionately about an issue. But I am learning that once I notice that I am am angry, it is far more productive to stop, step back and try to find some gentleness for myself and the cause of my anger. And then, with precision, approach the situation as a friend. Making friends with your emotions means respecting them, yes, but also learning to comfort yourself and give yourself good counsel. Isn’t that what friends do for each other? Being gentle allows love to enter the equation and being precise means staying focused on what is really going on, not getting caught up in all the drama.
“Today I will be gentle and precise, a good friend to myself. And if there are issues that upset me, I will embrace those moments of my humanity and welcome the lessons with grace. “