Much has been said lately about what is a real apology. What does it mean to say you are sorry and really reflect on your behavior and try to do better? It means that you take ownership of the act and are willing to “take the hit”. That’s what I call it. Taking the hit. You screwed up, you hurt someone’s feelings, you blew the job, you crashed the car. Put on your big girl (or boy) pants and “take the hit.” (this means deal with the consequences of your actions) Why? Because in really admitting where you have done wrong and truly doing whatever you can to right that wrong, you build character and self-esteem.
Deflecting and placing blame on others only intensifies your own guilt. Own it, apologize, take the hit, and then do better next time.
“Today if I am in the wrong I will promptly admit it and vow to do better.”