I grew up in a critical household. My dad, who is still alive, will admit this, we have long since worked out our issues, and we have a fantastic relationship today based on love, respect, and mutual forgiveness of the past.
However, when I was young, I was very sensitive to disappointing my father, falling short, making mistakes, embarrassing him. I was talkative, tall, and an easy target for my dad’s rather short temper. It left me feeling that I was never going to please him, and any of the achievements I reached were just not going to be good enough in his eyes.
We all make mistakes, we WILL fail in this life, but those mistakes are not a moral indictment of us as a human being. However if you believe your ability to have love in your life is dependent on being perfect you will always fall short.
“Today whenever I begin to criticize myself for making a mistake, I will remember that I can’t please everyone all the time and will gently remind myself, “I am a nice person, I try hard, and that’s good enough today.”