Disappointment is a killer. Depending on how badly you wanted something to happen the level of disappointment can be devastating. I used to have a saying as a young woman, “I would rather be pleasantly surprised than thoroughly disappointed.”
In this statement lies a very simple truth. I was afraid to “want”. Wanting something to happen meant that if it didn’t happen I had “lost”. As I grew up I found that “hoping” I will be happy is not a path to real joy. I had to want to be happy, want to be in love, want to be successful. And luckily for me, I found teachers and mentors who showed me how to live my life in “Joyful Expectancy”. If I believe that the basis of life is freedom, the object of life is joy, and the result of life comes from the decisions that we make every day, then the only answer to finding my happiness was within ME.
Without being attached to the outcome, I understand that I must envision my life before it can unfold, that I must believe that I deserve joy, and I must then act on that vision and belief.
“Today, with the wonder of a small child, I will joyfully expect good things for me.”