We don’t, you know. We will avoid at all costs a confrontation that is long overdue simply because we can’t be sure of the outcome.
But with the principle of “Love First” this fear can be eliminated because if you are practicing the discipline of “Love First” you will have spent the time to consider why you need to speak to another person, envisioned a loving exchange, and be willing to allow them to be who they are, even if they are not willing to allow you the same.
By stating your position clearly, calmly, with love for yourself and THEM, while not being attached to a certain outcome, you will begin to see “confrontation” for what the word really means, “To bring to the front.” That’s it, that’s all a confrontation is. We have given that word a lot of power, but really, it’s two people bringing an issue of disagreement to each other to see if there is a resolution.
“Today, if I find that there is an issue I need to bring to someone’s attention, I will first practice the “Love First Principles” and envision being heard, as well as being willing to listen, without being attached to the outcome.”