Ever had a thought that you wish you could “unthink”? It’s ugly, it’s angry, or depressed, and you really don’t want to go there? All of us have had this moment. It’s a thought that comes to us from our social conditioning, our past experiences, and our fear of being hurt.
But that’s just it. It’s only ONE thought. Whether or not you choose to work it up into a drama is YOUR choice. So what do you do? You have the thought, you feel that thought, and you STOP. You ask yourself, “Okay that’s how I feel right now, but how do I want to feel?’ In that moment of space you can decide to direct your thinking. It’s not easy, and it doesn’t always work, but if you practice the idea of not beating yourself up for having that horrible, nasty first thought, you will allow yourself the 3 second opportunity to think and DIRECT your thoughts to what you would PREFER.
“I know that I will have some thoughts today that are not kind, loving, or positive. I promise to not beat myself up for those thoughts, but to stop and ask myself, “What would I prefer to feel?”