Here’s the funny thing. We seriously do not know what the other person is thinking! We spend an awful lot of time trying to figure out what’s going on in their minds, usually driving us crazy in the process.
In acting terms, the “Subjective Fantasy” means what the WRITER intended in his or her mind when writing the story. As an actor, you can’t really know what that fantasy is until you speak to the writer, so when you audition, you have to come up with your own fantasy about the character.
And that’s fine, and part of the work. But in our personal lives, coming up with a fantasy about what the other person is thinking or feeling is dangerous and can lead to taking action that is not based in truth.
“Today I will stop myself from creating fantasies about the people in my life, and I will find the courage to speak to them directly and listen to what they say.”