I came up with this saying about 30 years ago. What it means is that humans are stubborn and some of our best lessons are learned when we have beat our heads against the wall until we are so exhausted we finally surrender and admit that we just can’t keep taking the same action and expect different results!
By practicing the Love First approach to life, I no longer need to wait until I am beaten and torn up inside to change. Some patterns may take a while to discover, especially if they are patterns from your childhood, but once you have been practicing looking for positive aspects to appreciate, you will be more sensitive to behavior that causes you pain.
Be gentle with yourself and remember that the process of being human is one that lasts a lifetime, there is no test, no graduation from this life, you learn along the way and the only thing you can ask of yourself, or others, really, is to do the best you can, one day at a time.
“Today, I will be willing to ask myself if I am ready to take a different action, one of Love First, for myself and for others, and let that guiding principle lead me to new results.”